[NOTE: I saw this article and felt it was worth sharing. I'll probably look for other guest posts in the future as well - Louis]
by Rob Andrews
What are the correct kinds of words to use covert hypnosis?
Using words that cause someone to see things in a different way is one way to influence how they feel and think. This is called reframing.
A famous example of reframing is glass half empty, half full metaphor. This reframing from viewing the glass not as half empty, but rather as half full, helps people see the positive side of something.
You can use reframing for more complex things by changing some very simple words in a sentence. For example, think about the difference between these three sentences:
It’s very pretty outside today, but tomorrow it’s going to rain.
It’s very pretty outside today, and tomorrow it’s going to rain.
It’s very pretty outside today, even though tomorrow it’s going to rain.
These sentences describe the same things, but the small change of only a word or two makes you think about the weather differently. Go over these sentences again and be sensitive to how each one makes you feel about the weather today and the weather tomorrow. Can you feel the different attitudes they bring out?
There can be many ways to reframe things.
Choosing words that expand the frame cause the person listening to see the bigger picture.
Like, when a person is at a store and is worried about buying a pair of shoes because she knows that a store across town has the same pair for a few dollars less, you may say something like, Wow, I know that the other store has the same pair for a couple dollars less, but that’s an hour away. How much gas do you think you would use up driving over there?
You can also reframe the context of a situation.
Friend: Man! I really wanted to go to the beach today but its so windy outside it wouldnt be any fun.
You: Ya, it wouldn’t be much fun sitting on the beach in the wind, but look at the wave! It would be a great day for surfing!
And there is also the content reframe.
Friend: What a jerk! That man blew by us doing 100 mph. Can you believe some people!
You: He sure was going fast. Did you see he had his emergency lights on? I wonder if he was going to the hospital.
So you can see how changing the language you use can actually change someones attitude about things.
One powerful type of conversational hypnosis is reframing.
Reframing let’s you distract the listener’s conscious mind and causes her to listen to her subconscious brain.
There is no obvious hypnotic trance here like you would see in overt hypnosis, but nevertheless, this use of words in conversational hypnosis causes the listener to respond to things using her subconscious mind.
Learn more about conversational hypnosis and reframing, and try it out.